Your time is extremely valuable. You only have 24 hours each day, and between getting enough sleep, eating well and trying to make a living, it’s hard to find enough time to enjoy the life you were given. There are so many things that waste your valuable time and energy that don’t matter at the end of the day.
Here are just a small sample of them. Take back your life and stop wasting your time on things that don’t matter:
There will always be people in your life who try to drag you into their drama. You will never benefit from getting involved in other people’s drama, because then it eventually becomes your own.
People Who Don’t Value You
Instead of surrounding yourself with toxic people who try to take advantage of you, spend your time with people who respect you and value what you bring into the relationship. There’s only so much you can do with people who don’t respect you, and it’s not worth your time to worry about tem.
Trying to Attain Perfection
Perfection is impossible. We all know this — so why do so many people work so hard to get as close to it as possible? From work to personal lives, some people are never satisfied because nothing is perfect for them. Instead of aiming for perfection, do the best you can and be happy with that.
Checking Your Phone or Email Constantly
We live in a pretty great era. We have so much information in the palm of our hands — literally. As smartphones are becoming more and more common, we’re interacting with the people we love less and less face-to-face. Put down the phone, step away from your computer, and spend some time with the people you love or taking part in an activity that makes you truly happy.
Having a Poor Work-Life Balance
There are some people who laze around all day browsing the internet. There are some people who need to fill every minute of every day with some sort of menial task. Both of these extremes are a waste of time — just like you should do something productive each day, you also need down time to relax.
It’s impossible to control everything. There are too many factors that go into play, such as other people in your life or even simply the weather that day. Take a deep breath and accept the fact that you’re not going to be able to plan for everything. Life happens.
The Fear of Failure
Fear is a perfectly normal reaction to the unknown. However, many of us let this fear affect our decisions. For example, you may want to travel the world, but maybe you’re afraid of leaving a stable, albeit uneventful, life. If you let this fear dictate your decisions, you’ll never do what makes you happy.
When you’re having a rough day, venting away your frustration can be extremely cathartic. However, if you spend every day complaining about things you can’t control, it’ll negatively affect you and the people around you. Oftentimes, complaining won’t help you — so instead of wasting your time and energy on it, work on a way to make the situation more enjoyable.
Carrying Resentment from the Past
If you’re holding onto bitter feelings from years ago, it’s just going to keep eating away at you. Holding onto that resentment doesn’t help you at all and will make you unhappier each time you think about it. As difficult as it may be, let go of those feelings.
Thinking of the “What Ifs”
We all have those moments in our lives where we think, “If only I could go back in time…” Hindsight it 20/20, and unfortunately that often brings up the question “What if?” What if you talked to that girl you liked? What if you accepted the job on the other side of the country? What if you went to a different school? However, you can’t change the past – what’s done is done. You can certainly reflect on your past choices, but don’t dwell on what could have been — think of what can be.
Worrying About Other People
People will always do things that may get on your nerves. Instead of letting it get to you, take a deep breath, ask yourself if it’s really necessary to get worked up over it and go on with your life.
Waiting for the Perfect Moment
Nothing would ever get accomplished if everyone waited for the perfect moment to do something. Instead of waiting for the moment to come to you, make the moment perfect to do it. Waiting will get you nowhere — action is what makes a difference.
Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else
Comparing yourself to other people won’t help you out in the grand scheme of things. Your life has been filled with circumstances completely different to others, so trying to compare your achievements with someone else’s isn’t fair to you or the other person in question. Instead of trying to keep up with the Joneses, be happy for what other people have and strive to make yourself just as happy.
Making Everyone Happy
You will not make everyone in your life happy. Sometimes you’ll have to make unpopular decisions. Sometimes you might have to do something that upsets someone. The sooner you accept this, the easier it will be to be happier with your own life.
Doing Things That Make You Unhappy
Sometimes we have to do things we don’t enjoy — doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, filing paperwork. It’s just the way it is. However, if you’re spending your whole day doing something that makes you miserable — a dead-end job for example — you’re not gaining anything from it.
The best way to make the most of your time is to spend it the way you want to spend it. Don’t worry about other people’s drama, the things they do, or what they may think about you. Forget about what happened 15 years ago — you can’t change it, so why stress about it? Focus on what you can do in the future to make yourself happy, and you’ll find yourself enjoying the way you spend your days a lot more than before.